Thursday, June 28, 2012

Expat Blog Hop - Week 22 Mediating.....

 The prompt this week was related to this article I stumbled across recently in the Australian Times.

Will you, Could you, Do you want to stay where you are forever?

Big Questions, that need big answers, grown up answers, answers that depend on a lot of things. Questions that many expats face every year, especially those who are in a country for work and move around. In fact, maybe it is easier for those expats who work for a company that sends them round the world. They know they won't stay forever but is that easier? That unknowing of where you might be from one year to the next.
Other expats, and I belong in this group, know that they have chosen the country they are in. They made a concious decision to go to that country. They planned to go there, nobody made them go there. But does this mean they will stay there forever?
These certainly aren't  true of everyone, but people tend to look upon the expatriate lifestyle as a temporary affair. The common reasons expats return 'home' are:

Assignments end. 
To be with friends and family. 
Relationship problems. 
Looking at these common reasons for leaving and going home, meaning not staying forever,  making the most of life elsewhere requires not only a willingness to build new relationships, but also to work hard on maintaining existing ones.

Will I stay in the Netherlands forever?
That's is a hard question, Dutchie and I have said we will stay here definitely until the children are older and have been through school. We have security here, a house, two jobs and good schools. Why would we want to disrupt this? However, you can never say you will. How long is forever reminds me of an expression my Dad always used to tell me when I asked How long? He would reply, "How long is a piece of string?"

Could I stay in the Netherlands forever?
I don't know. I mean the weather drives me mad!! Joking aside, I believe I can give it  try. Staying someone is about adapting and I feel I have done pretty well in that sense. As I said before I have security here, a job I enjoy and well, my second child will be really Dutch!

Do I want to stay in the Netherlands forever?
Not forever no, at the moment I can say when the children are older I may want to move. I would like to be one of those people who spend 6 months here and 6 months in a warm land!! But who knows, maybe as I adapt and change more and more I will be here to stay forever.

Forever is a long time. However I think the word forever involves family, love and commitment. 

Forever – is composed of Nows –

Forever – is composed of Nows –
‘Tis not a different time –
Except for Infiniteness –
And Latitude of Home –

From this – experienced Here –
Remove the Dates – to These –
Let Months dissolve in further Months –
And Years – exhale in Years –

Without Debate – or Pause –
Or Celebrated Days –
No different Our Years would be
From Anno Dominies –
Reprinted electronically on the Poetry Foundation website,by permission of the publishers and the Trustees of Amherst College from The Poems of Emily Dickinson, Ralph W. Franklin, ed., Cambridge, Mass.: The Belknap Press of Harvard University Press, Copyright © 1951, 1955, 1979, 1983, 1998 by the President and Fellows of Harvard College.

What about you? Staying forever? Link up a post below mine. Don't have a blog? Then comment below or  on on the Facebook Page. 
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  1. My answers are similar to yours Rosalind, maybe it's because we both chose to move to a different country?

    1. Yes I think it is different to choose to move somewhere then to go there because you have to.

  2. I could. I would. But I don't think I want to.

  3. I love this question. My ideal would be to own a house in France, live there for 6 months, then live in Australia for the rest of the year when I'm not travelling. Currently house sitting for a blogger friend in Fiji! Awesome.


  4. Hi Denise,

    Yes I think that would be my ideal but given the current Dutch weather in the Summer, I think id spend the whole year away!!!


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